It is not hard to recognize the signs of someone who has hit the proverbial wall and after the holidays and in the middle of winter things may look blah. Most of the times the signs are quite clear: disenchantment, boredom, lack of pride in the product or service being delivered, change in performance or commitment to corporate goals, absenteeism, verbal frustration to name a few.
Q/I am having a hard time getting back to a routine after the holidays. Not sure if it is the winter blues or what it is. I am just not feeling motivated. What can I do?
Like most things in life when you find yourself in a particular emotional or intellectual space it is the result of both internal and external factors, which is another way of saying that things that you can and cannot control are always at play in determining your reality.
Everything on the outside is just that, external, temporary. If you do not like the view, change direction. Small steps lead to giant leaps and waking yourself up is the very first step.
Here are 7 quick tips that in my opinion can jump start anyone who wishes a fresh start and a new year is a great time to get going:
- Ask yourself a different question. Tony Robins tells us that every day all day we unconsciously ask ourselves the questions that define our interpretation of reality: Why me? What are they talking about? Where are they going? Why are we doing this again? What is her problem? Pay attention to the questions you ask yourself. If they have a negative undertone give them a positive spin and ask positive questions. Instead of why is this happening? Ask yourself what about this can be good? This may sound silly but I do believe that when you change your vocabulary and you can change your life.
- Redefine you Goals. Write down immediately without thinking what is important to you, what are you greatest needs or desires. Write the first five things that come to mind. Is it money? security? recognition? life/work balance? a legacy? What is important as well as who is important to you. Be honest with yourself. After you identify them think of the cause and effect. Focus on the actions that you will need to take in order to attain what is the most important to you and how that fits with your current job. Remember your current job is just your starting point, your “you are here” mark.
- Become a Builder. Borrow from the building industry. How do you build (create) something: you come up with a concept, do research, draw plans, identify materials/resources, time lines, budgets, break ground, build a strong foundation and follow the plan. Like a builder you work on the present one step at a time – sometimes, messy sometimes dirty – with hard work and commitment you will reach your goals and visions towards the future
- Find Inspiration. Find someone that has achieved what you aspire. Find out more about them if it is someone accessible, be bold ask for a brief meeting, correspond with them, being honest about your intentions and respectful of their time. Most successful people I have met feel great responsibility and have great respect for anyone willing to work hard to get ahead. Not the time to be shy, the only thing I cannot emphasize enough is: if you are lucky to find such a real life mentor and you are granted a meeting go prepared, do not ask for a job, money or a short-cut.
- Tell the world. Get excited about yourself and about your goals. Let your goals become a prominent part of your life. Do something that touches those goals every single day. Network, network, network. Find kindred spirits that are a positive influence and can share knowledge or experiences. I read once that the best way to learn is to teach. Tell anyone that will listen about the work you are doing, what you have learned, why it means so much to you, what you are hoping to accomplish, you may find yourself a champion to your cause. Do make sure you back up some of the talk with action every step of the way.
- Challenge yourself. Challenge and discomfort are mutually inclusive. To challenge yourself at anything new is to grow. In order to go to second base you must get your foot off first base, to sail the ocean you must leave the shore. In order to reach your wildest dreams you must have some wild dreams to begin with…I could go on …. but I am pretty sure you got it.
- Sharpen the Saw. The seventh habit of Highly Effective People. In one of many books dearest to my heart, Steven Covey taught us to: “Sharpen the Saw means preserving and enhancing the greatest asset you have–you. It means having a balanced program for self-renewal in the four areas of your life: physical, social/emotional, mental, and spiritual…As you renew yourself in each of the four areas, you create growth and change in your life. “
Here is wishing you an amazing 2018.
MA-IS, CHRL, SHRM-SCP, CPCC, Business Development & Branding Specialist, President and CEO